Have you ever taken a look around you and noticed the guys that all the ladies seem to swoon over? Do you ever find yourself wondering what those guys have that you don’t? Why is it that some men are looked at as being sexy and fine, while others are looked past and don’t seem to be noticed by the ladies? Well, my friend, if you are wanting to know what it takes to be a fine black man, then you might want to keep reading this guide to becoming a real lady killer.

It’s in the Attitude

One of the first steps you need to take in order to become a fine black man is to have the right attitude. I know, I know, it can be hard to determine the exact attitude the ladies want. If you act like too much of a jerk, they don’t want anything to do with you and they call you a dog. If you are too nice, they walk all over you or they put you in the “just friends” department – which is a sure sign that you will never get yourself any action.

The key is to avoid coming off like you are desperate. Be respectful and kind, but don’t come off like you need what she has got. It’s like negotiating for a new car. You might really want to drive that Caddy off the lot, but you have to play it cool if you want to get a good deal. The same thing is true with a fine woman.

Check Yourself…with Your Nose

Before you even bother taking a look at yourself in the mirror, give yourself a once-over with your nose. If you are pulling a wrinkled up shirt off the floor and sniffing the pits before you put it on, the chances are you won’t be considered a fine black man by any fine black women. Make sure all of your clothes are freshly cleaned and don’t settle for “well, it doesn’t stink.” Women like their men to smell fresh and clean.

On the other end of the spectrum, don’t try to mask your body funk with cologne. If you do decide to put on cologne, make sure your body smells good underneath. Nothing turns a woman off more than the smell of nasty funk mixed with sweet cologne. When you do put on the cologne, use it sparingly. A woman that can’t breathe because your cologne is so strong is likely to look somewhere else for a man.

Get the Right Clothes

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t necessarily have to have designer clothes on in order to attract a woman. In fact, if you are too dolled up and if you look too pretty, most women will just assume you are gay.

Don’t worry about putting on clothes that are in a style that you don’t like. Rather, make sure your clothes express your personality and that they are clean and well put together. At the same time, many women can’t resist a man in a nice suite or a man that looks like he really cares about the clothes he is wearing. Make sure your clothes fit the situation. If you are going to a bar, a suit is going to be too much. At the same time, you don’t want to show up with your steel-toed boots and your dirty jeans from work still on.

Keeping the Hair Looking Good

Whether you have short hair, long hair, or dreads, the key is to make them tidy and neat. Even a wild hairstyle should look purposely wild rather than “I just rolled out of bed and put some product in my hair.” Don’t try to cut your hair yourself – go to a professional and get a real hair cut.